About Wounds

Time heals all wounds

Wounds in the relational/spiritual realm are certainly a very scary/powerful thing. Wounds can shape the whole person...and, in fact, thats precisely what they do. Maybe, not all the time but certainly they play a huge part in the developement of the soul/personality/etc. For instance, if you were someone who was stolen from all your life...your probably suspicious of other people. Maybe you were lied to often, so you question the truth. Maybe you were abused physcially or wounded deeply emotionally, and now your unable to trust. So are wounds are very powerful things, and can control our personality and very lives. However, we subject ourselves to their power when we don't go to Jesus with our wounds...

I can remember my early days of being wounded. I think their always small at first, and become real clear once the school years begin, but even before that surely. My most profound wounds came at the hand of my parents. I don't think this is some great tragedy...this is normal for everyone. We are around are parents more than any other person. They are or should be the person who loves us the most in the world growing up and so they have the capacity to wound us the greatest. They are around the most...in most cases...and so have most opportunity to wound.

Rejection is the most common form wounds take when were young I believe. For instance, like when my thumb didn't get pressed down in "7 up" in first grade. The day a kid made fun of my ears at the Berlin Flea Market. The time in second/third grade when I got in a fight. The day my friend Eddie stole from me. The time my friend Mike didn't invite me to his birthday party. I can also remember the deep wounds. Like I said before I think many that will go unsaid come at the hands of my parents. Praise the Lord that they are truly and thankfully not gashes. I grew up in a wonderful home by any standard I have to measure it against, but my parents were/are sinful and they wounded me as I wounded them. I am truly blessed not to have grown up in a home of verbal/sexual abuse, or a home where I was not loved/affirmed, etc.

My deepest wound to date came at the hand of my best friend at the time, two summers ago. I have never felt hurt more than on that dramatic day. I can still remember the rush of emotions. The opportunity to act like a son in the kingdom of God was never more real than in that moment. The chance to forgive; though wounded. Forgiveness is the key to dealing with all wounds I believe, but Jesus is the keymaker. I must admit the pain of that situation seemed to be on me like white on rice, and it seemed best to just ignore it...and let time deal with it. I sincerely bought into this crap "Time heals all wounds". Now, time might help forget, but that doesn't do anything but bury the pain and hurt.

We talked this morning , George Miley mainly, about this issue. George submitted that only Jesus can heal all wounds. I think that is something that should have struck me a good deal earlier. He was right when he said that Time doesn't produce maturity or wisdom. Time doesn't heal, books don't heal, counseling doesn't heal, friends don't heal, etc. They can help, but only if they lead you to love and Jesus. If they don't lead to him; then I'm afraid were just wasting our time. Only Jesus can heal our soul...and all the parts included: physical, emotional, and spiritual.

I think the way Jesus heals the soul that George talked about is exactly the same way I experienced healing in my life two summers ago. The healing is when we are alone with God and he tells us that...... I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU...NOTHING YOU DO TODAY COULD MAKE ME LOVE YOU MORE !

Now, I am a firm believer that this is true...I know because when I'm with Him he tells me. However, this will never be something you can just know, you have to hear it for yourself. A way to hear God, maybe the easiest, is to be in his presence. In a culture that has no respect for silence, solitude, and prayer I'm afraid we have missed out on hearing these words from Him. I'm with George, once you hear that...healing is possible and already begun.